“Just because I didn’t give you the reaction you wanted, it doesn’t mean I’m wrong.”

Is there a right and wrong in relationships? What if you are right, but in being so, end up hurting the other person, then is that wrong? What if you’re both right, but you cannot see each other’s reasoning, then are the two rights making a wrong? If so, how can you make the wrong right by being right with yourself too?

Update:

Been thinking about this for the past three hours. I asked my mom for advice, and our conversation reminded me of this:

1 Corinthians 13

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

It seems to me that the point isn’t to determine who is right and who is wrong, as making such a judgment already implies selfishness. What’s the good in settling on who is more correct when in the process, we have lost sight of love.

I was reminded of my faith and relationship with Jesus by two non-Christians.

Lord, here I am. You have my attention.

During a verbal disagreement, hold your tongue and listen to what is and isn’t being said.  Understand where the other party is coming from even during a heated discussion and think about how s/he would feel after hearing what you have to say.  Also, consider the context in which the argument is taking place.  Factors like fatigue, hunger, nervousness, pain, accumulated frustration, etc. can amplify an otherwise minor issue.

Most importantly, don’t forget to evaluate and resolve the discussion.  Ending it with “fine”, “whatever”, or “eff you” will get your ass bitten by the issue when it decides to resurrect itself down the road.  Don’t be a victim.

So sorry for the scare, guys.  And thanks for your messages and emails of concern.  I thought it was a server issue, but it turns out I forgot to renew my domain.  Haha what an idiot.  It had slipped my mind that when I renewed my webspace for a year, the domain fee wasn’t part of the payment.

During the two and a half days of f-g impasse, even my brain came to a screeching halt.  A part of me was missing in action, and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t be the best of myself knowing that f-g.net loaded a strange ad with a stranger blonde chick.  It scared me to find out that not having f-g in my life left such a dent.  Helplessly I fired off frantic emails to my host in hopes of rectifying this mess my heart had gotten itself into.  Little did I know that it was ME who caused foolish-games.net’s hiatus.  I’m such a bad momma.

A year ago I thought about pulling the plug on f-g because I was no longer the diligent blogger I once was in my late teenage years.  I’m glad I chalked the idea up to temporary lapse in judgment, because for my sanity’s sake, I cannot and will not be without my darling fg.

On a tangent of a tangent,  I was at a makeup warehouse sale yesterday with Sela (thanks Daph) and man there were some serious biatches there.  It’s just makeup, people.  Isn’t it ridiculous to fight over lipgloss?  No amount of foundation can cover up how ugly you are inside.

You still rock my world.

we would be a lot greener.

No wait, I forgot that the intended purpose of this post is not to generate cheese… Gosh chrisBEAN.
Seriously, if money grew on trees and I happen to be a spectacular gardener, or if I could justify spending $1300 on a purse, or if I weren’t saving for something that matters more than any material goods, this puppy would be mine.

The other day, I was walking along Bloor St. with Alfredo Sauce after work when in the corner of my eye, I caught a glimpse of this beauty sitting perkily in Holts’ display window. Its enticing exterior beckoned me to stop walking and take a closer look. Lo and behold, it was the bag of my dreams and it was glowing somewhat radioactively. As Albert dragged me across the street to browse at FCUK, I couldn’t stop talking about the perfection that is this bag. In fact, it was running laps in my mind the rest of the evening. The next morning, I decided to call Holts at my office to inquire about this legendary number although I wasn’t sure why. I knew I’m not the type of person to throw my pay cheque into the Holts enterprise, but I called anyway. And of course, it’s a Valentino weighing in at $1195. I quickly worked my fingers and yahoo’d the bag to see what I would find. (Guys, I know the rest of the world uses google, but Yahoo! has been my confidant since Grade 6) It’s a Valentino alright, and the pictures confirmed that it is indeed perfect.

Yes it is a hobo, over the top, metallic leather, purple and unbelievably shiny, but the best part is undeniably the side bow detail. Why does it have to be a Valentino and why does it have to be so unaffordable!! The world is so cruel to me. It’s like seeing the man of your dreams only to find out he’s married, or gay.

But hey, don’t cry for me, because I will be getting my dream shoes through the mail any day now:

No dream bag, but shoes will do just fine.

So I’ve accumulated enough AQs to warrant 1 blog entry, so here goes. Thanks for your quirky questions, lovelies. I left out the ones that were not,
1) anonymous
2) questions
for obvious reasons. I also had an overwhelming amount of makeup questions, so I will take more time to address those in the future.

Question: doihaveaboyfriend
Answer: idontknow.

Question: amigoingtohaveababy
Answer: yes, you hater of the spacebar.

Question: is there such a thing as having too many pairs of shoes? ..Hey, I think we both know the answer to that XD
Answer: Too many pairs? Yes actually, if you start to own 2 pairs of the same colour/style, then I would say that’s too many pairs.

Question: Do you miss me?
Answer: Yes, I miss “you”.

Question: who are you xD
Answer: Interesting question. I’m only beginning to find out the answer. Ask me again in 20 years.

Question: Do you wear makeup to work?
Answer: I actually wear very little to work because one, I am lazy and I rarely get up early enough to put it on, and two, I like letting my skin breathe since the air in my office is very dry. I usually drench my skin in moisturizer and sunscreen in the morning and walk out the door.

Question: Do you like… cheese?
Answer: Why the dramatic pause between the word ‘like’ and ‘cheese’? Just what kind of cheese is this?!

Question: how do you deal with pimples?
Answer: I rarely get pimples anymore now that I am older, but whenever I get breakouts, I do spot treatment with a paste I make with uncoated aspirin and water. It’s something about the salicylic acid in the aspirin that reduces inflammation? I couldn’t tell you HOW it works, but trust me, it works. Even if I don’t get breakouts, I do an aspirin mask once a week to keep the redness of my face at bay. Just get some uncoated aspirin, dissolve 4-5 in cold water and spread the paste on your face. Leave it on until it starts to dry, then wash it off while gently exfoliating with the particles.

Question: can I just tell you youre really beautiful?
Answer: Awwwwwwwwwww.

Question: What is your fav makeup brand? Can you recommend a foundation?
Answer: As big of a MAC girl as I am, my favourite is actually Make Up For Ever. Their shadows are out of this world and their line is extremely artist-friendly. As for foundation, I really like Make Up For Ever’s Face & Body liquid - it’s light when I don’t need the coverage and buildable when I do.

Question: Why are you so cute?
Answer: Because being cute is better than being the opposite of cute?

Question: how the hell are your eyebrows so perfect???!
Answer: Let me tell you, they are not. I battle with them everyday and pluck stray hairs all the time. Plus, they are only “perfect” because I fill them in. I have MUFE’s Eyebrow Corrector to thank.

Question: does your bf treat you well?
Answer: He’s great 98% of the time. The other 2% allows me to appreciate him so much more.

Question: Did you get flowers on V-Day?
Answer: Nah. Thoughtful presents are much more enjoyable than flowers and their 3 day lifespan.

Question: Can you do my makeup again?
Answer: I assume you are one of my clients? For sure! You know how to get a hold of me if you haven’t done so already.

Question: what brand is those neon eyeshadows?
Answer: They are actually Special FX water-activated colours by Kryolan and Wolfe Brothers. They glow under blacklights and are bright as eff. I wear them because I am crazy.

Question: what are you listening to these days?
Answer: My latest go-to albums: Corrosion of Conformity’s In the Arms of God & David Usher’s Strange Birds

Question: you have beautiful skin. wat’s ur skincare routine?
Answer: Aw thanks, even though my skin is really not that great. But I promise I will make a post on my skincare routine soon.

I luv you, SG. Thank you for:

- enhancing my limited English vocabulary when I first came to Canada- I knew the rap to Wannabe before I understood the words
- teaching me about safe sex at the age of 12 (be a little bit wiser baby, put it on, put it on)
- reminding me to appreciate my mom (mama, I love you.. mama I care)
- popularizing platforms for the short folks, or those who want to be even taller
- preaching about strength and courage and a wonderbra
- producing Spice World so I could force my brother to watch it with me and educate him about Girl Power
- making Toronto the official SPICE CITY so we can relive our childhood through your concert

Concert pictures after the jump (more…)

Can’t tell you how PUMPED I am for the Spice Girls concert tonight… although it was really cruddy of them to cancel the rest of the tour.  I’m sure others around the world would’ve loved to relive their childhood and get their dosage of GIRL POWER.  So much for Girl Power, ladies.  You can’t even keep your crap together long enough to finish a tour.  Not impressive..  Nevertheless…

Oh the fun we will have tonight. 

Had a brief but insightful talk with Sela last night..  Sarah, thank you.  Our conversation reminded me that I, in spite of being tired pretty much all the time, am very content with my life right now.  I am exactly where I want to be in life, but life is doing such a great job in merrily running its course that I have overlooked its fluidity.  I have 3 jobs, and together they give satisfaction to every aspect of my being.  As far as my full-time goes, I am happy here even though my menopausal boss gives me grief every 5 minutes.  It pays the bills and gives me the experience I need to push my career ahead.  My 2nd job as a piano teacher feeds the bossy musician in me.  Music loyally remains in my life and I gladly embrace it with both arms.  My freelance “project” has taken off and steady business is coming in.  When I hold that brush in my hand, the process effortlessly performs itself and I merely stand there and facilitate.  This makes makeup almost therapeutic; the textures and colours give me a natural high.

On a silly note, I’m really starting to like my hair.  Maybe I’ll get it chopped one more time before reverting back to the long and wavy.  Maybe..

So let me ask you, are you where you want to be?  If not, why aren’t you there?!